Finally, with the appropriate amount of estrogen flowing through my bloodstream, everything started making sense. I joined OK Cupid a few years ago to cast a wider net and catch the kinds of people I wasn't meeting through "traditional" avenues.
I started on the site as a gender non-conforming gay male and then moved into being a pansexual genderqueer person.
Both of those spaces availed me access to the "cool" queer and trans people of whom I wasn't meeting in the three-dimensional world.
While not many of my dates turned into anything, at least I had the encouragement that there are cool people who are actually interested in me.
An alert reader sent a video to Life in the Boomer Lane titled “The Universal Hot/Crazy Matrix: A Man’s Guide to Women.” The chart was developed by Dana Mc Lendon, a forty-something who looks like he spent a lot of time hugging the wall in social situations, trying to figure women out, before he decided to turn them into a two-dimensional chart. Mc Lendon makes quick work of intelligence, sense of humor, political and social awareness, professional achievements, and whatever other areas misguided women might believe are advantageous in one’s quest for a meaningful relationship with the opposite sex. According to Mc Lendon’s matrix, LBL would most likely have ended up in the Chernobyl category and the marriage would not have taken place.
Had she met him after he watched the video, their three years of pre-wedding dating would have been condensed into about a week, in which LBL would be wearing stiletto heels and a bikini, and Now Husband could assess her Crazy quotient as she fell over repeatedly while trying to suck in her stomach and walk in the stilettos at the same time.
The very top spot, meaning a woman who is insanely hot AND not at all crazy, is a guy, in other words, a tranny.